First things first, grab yourself a cup of tea, coffee… even a cheeky glass of wine (if it’s an appropriate hour…. or even if it’s not…) Ready? Then you are cordially invited to the wedding of Roma and Ilana, a London couple who planned and put together a Secret Garden themed wedding in Israel (and you don’t even have to worry about the tiring flight and the whole ‘what do I wear’ dilemma), you simply have to press play.
Writing about weddings is a privilege, full stop. To get given an insight into a couple’s day, the people they are, what made things special to them and all that their choices convey about them and their relationship is humbling.
It’s easy to sit and write about their story and why we love their wedding (because – and we’ll be frank here – we simply love other people’s weddings), but sometimes, despite using our thesaurus extensively to seek out new adjectives to try and express to you just quite how lovely the couple and their day was, while words don’t exactly fail us, they can struggle to convey to you just what it was like to be there, with them, and how they felt on the day.
This, aside from giving you shed-loads of ideas and inspiration for your own wedding, is really what we aim to do with our real wedding features.
Which is why, as soon as this link arrived from @motion ( Tigerlily Wedding Partner) at our HQ we knew at once that we would be featuring it.
Not just because of our Tigerlily connection but for us Roma and Ilana’s beautiful candlelit Secret Garden ceremony looks amazing, from the hanging crystal garlands and lanterns in the tress and Mother Nature’s own contribution in the flower and tree department, which frankly got the whole team excited.
Not just because of the simply stunning images that captured their day from start to finish (and by the finish, we refer to what appears to be a spectacular party), and not simply because of the beautifully set tables and the candle lanterns that their guests all held during the ceremony.
Neither was it because we simply adored the theme which was, in Ilana’s own words ‘a Secret Garden Wedding, enchanted and full of spirituality, sunshine and warmth with a venue that encapsulated our dream. I’ll never forget the incredible scent of Jasmine and how wonderful the trees and flowers looked. A Secret garden through a vintage house with so much memory. Open to the skies with a grapevine Huppah overlooking Israel’s views’, (though, you know, clearly we do love it very much).
No, it was because this video that takes just over two minutes to watch, made us feel as though we’d actually been there with them: it captures subtle, loving glances between guests, the difference between him and her when getting ready (him: piles of clothes, lots of men walking round in pants, her: sea of calm, pampering and tidiness). It encapsulated what the day was, and made our need for an array of adjectives obsolete.
Of course, it’s important to get some of the details, you know, the nitty gritty which we all like to know about. The details of the dress, for example, which Ilana remembers was not the straightforward process that she had envisioned: ‘[the dress] was a long story and I changed my mind on design many times.
I had bought a vintage dress from a sale at The Sanderson and then realized that it wasn’t right. I had a few dresses on hold and on my way to buy the one I wanted I had a last minute appointment at Temperley to see their sale… well that’s where the perfect dress lay.
Hanging in front of me was a stunning lace dress that was just the one I had dreamed of with Swarovski crystals delicately sewn on and embroidered silk flowers. The detail was magnificent and it was demure with subtle sparkle’
It’s also lovely to know how a couple first got together: Roma remembers ‘I was working for an English Law Firm in Paris. They sent me to London office for about three months. On my last day, I decided to have a goodbye party and offered my two roommates to invite their friends. Ilana was a friend of a friend and that evening we got into a conversation that lasted all night.
We had coffee in the morning in a local coffee shop, just the two of us, the life of the party and then parted ways. But while I was packing my suitcase Ilana came back. She offered me a lift to the station. During the journey, she admitted to writing me a song that morning and recorded it on her laptop in the park.
She handed me a CD, I melted… and I left. The connection was so strong that I decided to come back and visit “my friends” a couple of weeks later. We got together and the rest is history!’
For Ilana, it was close to instantly knowing that Roma was the man for her ‘I felt connected like we were meant to meet, it felt like a sudden feeling – we shared interests, musical taste, sat talking for hours until daylight and it felt really comfortable. It’s hard to explain the feeling but that it just felt right, like it was destined’.
At Tigerlily we are ardent fans of a playlist or two, and music was very important to the couple as they celebrated well into the night, from their first dance which was “Just your Smile” by their good friend Kevin Mark Trail – ‘it was as much because of what the song meant as it was our way to have him there at the wedding as we knew he couldn’t make it. We decided together on the music, and made the ceremony a mix of our traditions – Roma being from a French Moroccan Background and I from an Eastern European.’
It’s clear to us that while Ilana openly took the lead in the planning of their wedding, Roma’s influence and ideas were also represented throughout: from the choice of music to the ceremony itself.
The day was, in their own words: ‘The day was just really relaxed. Peaceful. Having everyone around made it really special. And from the minute I got to the venue, I knew everything was as it should. Time flew by, and at the very moment, we pronounced our vows, an overwhelming feeling of joy took over me. It was just memorable.’
Thanks to Ilana and Roma for sharing their beautiful day with Tigerlily x.
Roma and Ilana’s Little Black Book
Wedding Photography www.bence-kedochim.co.uk
Wedding Film @motion
Event Planning & Design The Bride
Flowers: Bouquet by Taam Vatzeva – there was no need for any more as these were already in the magical garden
Music: a friend of ours who had a live band played for us and then we had a DJ to follow. A lot of our friends are singers so a few got up to sing.
Bride’s Shoes Silver with Swarovski crystal design
Brides accessories Thalita Jones
The Grooms suit Azzaro Paris
Grooms Shoes Magnani
Words by Harriet Rouse Tigerlily